I will say, first of all, that this particular post is not for everyone. It is for the people who I am aware read this blog, who none the less shall remain nameless, but who DON'T seem to get the idea that the time I have to spend with my own children is determined by LEGAL DECREE! I don't have as much time to spend with my daughters as would be ideal to me, granted I'm STILL in no position to have physical custody, it simply wouldn't work, particularly under my current circumstances. But my time with them is precious, whether or not I always necessarily show it. Ergo, if my daughters are with Martha and I for the weekend, and you extend a social invitation to us of some sort, rest assured, my children will indeed be in attendance also. To that end, either accomodate for them, and their needs, (and, no, I do NOT mean by offering a babysitter, that runs counter to the whole idea of SPENDING TIME with them,) or don't bother extending the invitation, period. I am not so socially inept as to think I couldn't find something to do on the weekends I do have my daughters that every invitation is needed, or desired, particularly. And don't waste my time with a constantly-changing vortex of half-plans; you either have something laid out in advance, and STICK to your original plan, (and odd as this sounds to have to say, that means you da*n well better be where you say you're going to be, WHEN you say you're going to be there,) or forget it. In a situation like mine, you do end up with default entertainment arrangements. And understand that spur-of-the-moment plans may or may not fly, depending upon what ELSE happens to be going on at the moment. In short, make plans far enough in advance so that I can plan for them, and STICK to the script, because I place great value on the time I have to be a parent; it's the only way anything is going to work.