Imagine, if you will, that I am who I am, Peter A. Klobucar, except for one thing; I had never spoken a word of English in my life. Instead, I spoke only Serbo-Croatian, because I had never ventured out of my little world. Let us further suppose, that at some point, for some reason I decided I was going to go to America. I arrive, speaking only my Serbo-Croatian, and find most people engaging in one of several possible responses.

• Outright disdain. You tried to commuicate, and just couldn't, because you didn't speak my language, and rather than trying, you just gave up. Which is honest, but unprofitable to the person acting as such, assuming I can learn. If you're like this, do you really think your behavior is going to be beneficial to you? I am gonna learn, and more than that, I'm gonna remember exactly how people responded to me.
• Quiet, careful whispers, telling one another, without telling me, (or so you think,) that you think I'm lazy, stupid or otherwise incapable of being what you might consider "normal." The response on my end is a bit like it was for our disdainful types; you know what they say about the foot that you step on today.....
• You tried to help me learn English, but unfortunately didn't get very far, because you didn't speak Serbo-Croatian, so there were a lot of words and phrases I didn't understand, and they aeren't going to be clear to me because they just don't make sense in my mind. In terms of English Language Learners, idiomatic expressions and slang are the most troubling, because the words seldom mean in usage what they literally do. In a case like this, despite the fact that you didn't get very far, I could still recognize and appreciate the effort you made to help me.
• You speak Serbo-Croatian, and were willing to help me learn English, because you, (often through trial-and-error,) were good at deciphering the slang terms, figuring out the grammar, and helping me in any way you could. God is in the details, and if you gloss over the details, you're not really getting it. On the positive side, don't think what you've done for me is gonna be forgotten. I guarantee, it won't.

This is the best explanation I can possibly make of how I feel, and how I have responded to people. Despite the fact that I do speak English pretty well, this is the kind of "disconnect" I have felt from society. I don't know why it's been that way, but after the life I've lived, I am finally starting to come around, be socially more adept and functional, and hopefully less likely to be whispered about. And don't think the responses are any different from what I've described above. If you don't recognize that I'm saying outright that I'm different, yeah, I saying that. I have been, and I'm learning. Furthermore, if you were dealing with a person who didn't speak your "language," no matter what particular sense we're talking about, if they ask you a question, and you say "guess!" or "you should know that!" is that helping them or just antagonizing them? Nobody in this world knows absolutely everything, do you think a mortgage banker would be good at electrical engineering right out of the box? I wouldn't want that particular guy working on a building or car project I was in charge of. It comes down to not only experience, and innate talent, but how much are you willing to bend to help someone who clearly doesn't know what they need to? If they're willing to bend to learn, shouldn't you be willing to bend to help them?

That's as clear as I can make my feelings. If you still don't understand, ask me.